Comments on: Missing Them https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/ Fri, 28 Jul 2017 01:37:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Linda Anderson, Nana forever https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1613 Linda Anderson, Nana forever Thu, 14 Jun 2012 04:50:24 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1613 June 15, 2012 will be the 1 year anniversary of the last times I shared with David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan. This week has been very difficult emotionally for me as I relive the moments of that last visit. We all shared dinner together the night of the 13th and that was wonderful as many times when I visited DeDe and David were working late and ate on the run, so to be able to all sit and share this time was so nice and ever so precious now as I remember and it being our last dinner together! On Friday DeDe was able to get away for a few hours and so we took Luke and Ryan to the Boardwalk and they got their season passes for the year that day. They each took a friend with them and the four boys had a great time riding the rides and having so much fun. It gave DeDe and I time together as we watched them and waited between the rides. We shared a oriental chicken salad wrap at the boardwalk and it was delicious! ( I will make that a special meal when ever I can when visiting the boardwalk. ) That night as they decided who would sleep with Nana (they rotated nights but I think Luke was soon growing to old to sleep with Nana), Ryan was the one and he asked me to tell him a story which was one of his favorites " The Diamond Eye Fish", which I made up as I told it. Ryan had a birthday party to go to so Luke and I decided that we would go garage sale shopping (a activity we all always enjoyed together for many years), and Luke found his turntable and some really neat old records (classical). I understand that he played them a week later with Uncle John and Gpa Edward on Father's Day and they had to name the song and the artist! WE also got a couple of succulent plants for Ryan as he was really getting into plants and Bonsai trees! I had to leave that afternoon for a wedding. I would have loved to have stayed and had I known what a difference in all of our lives was about to happen I would have. On that visit the boys and I went downtown to the silver store and they picked out a toe ring for me, they both decided on the same one that had waves on it which reminded all of us of the ocean and their fun times in the water. I lost the ring at the wedding and was very upset and looked very hard for it. I was blessed in finding a ring exactly like it after the accident and I bought it and wear it on my little finger on my left hand and as I look at it I remember the fun we had that day and am reminded of the love they had for me and me for them. I have been so blessed and am so greatful, even with a heavy heart and some sad tears as I remember and feel the loss so heavily. I continue to feel their presence with me and am actively waiting for each touching, I know they feel my love and I believe they are happy where they are but feel a sadness and such strong love for all of us that miss them so very much and are always remembering them. Love I send to Heaven and Love I send to all that are remembering with me these four wonderful Houghtons! Forever Mom * Nana June 15, 2012 will be the 1 year anniversary of the last times I shared with David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan. This week has been very difficult emotionally for me as I relive the moments of that last visit. We all shared dinner together the night of the 13th and that was wonderful as many times when I visited DeDe and David were working late and ate on the run, so to be able to all sit and share this time was so nice and ever so precious now as I remember and it being our last dinner together! On Friday DeDe was able to get away for a few hours and so we took Luke and Ryan to the Boardwalk and they got their season passes for the year that day. They each took a friend with them and the four boys had a great time riding the rides and having so much fun. It gave DeDe and I time together as we watched them and waited between the rides. We shared a oriental chicken salad wrap at the boardwalk and it was delicious! ( I will make that a special meal when ever I can when visiting the boardwalk. ) That night as they decided who would sleep with Nana (they rotated nights but I think Luke was soon growing to old to sleep with Nana), Ryan was the one and he asked me to tell him a story which was one of his favorites ” The Diamond Eye Fish”, which I made up as I told it. Ryan had a birthday party to go to so Luke and I decided that we would go garage sale shopping (a activity we all always enjoyed together for many years), and Luke found his turntable and some really neat old records (classical). I understand that he played them a week later with Uncle John and Gpa Edward on Father’s Day and they had to name the song and the artist! WE also got a couple of succulent plants for Ryan as he was really getting into plants and Bonsai trees! I had to leave that afternoon for a wedding. I would have loved to have stayed and had I known what a difference in all of our lives was about to happen I would have.
On that visit the boys and I went downtown to the silver store and they picked out a toe ring for me, they both decided on the same one that had waves on it which reminded all of us of the ocean and their fun times in the water. I lost the ring at the wedding and was very upset and looked very hard for it. I was blessed in finding a ring exactly like it after the accident and I bought it and wear it on my little finger on my left hand and as I look at it I remember the fun we had that day and am reminded of the love they had for me and me for them. I have been so blessed and am so greatful, even with a heavy heart and some sad tears as I remember and feel the loss so heavily. I continue to feel their presence with me and am actively waiting for each touching, I know they feel my love and I believe they are happy where they are but feel a sadness and such strong love for all of us that miss them so very much and are always remembering them. Love I send to Heaven and Love I send to all that are remembering with me these four wonderful Houghtons! Forever Mom * Nana

]]> By: Shannon McCord https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1254 Shannon McCord Tue, 29 Nov 2011 06:32:38 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1254 Halloween was hard without the big Houghton party. That was always so much fun. Last year David and I spent a while tying strings on little donuts for the annual no hands donut eating contest. David was saying it had been a long time since he had eaten one of those little donuts. I asked him how long and he laughed and said, well I guess it has been a year. Then we "accidentally" broke a donut and shared it. Good memories. Good people. Halloween was hard without the big Houghton party. That was always so much fun. Last year David and I spent a while tying strings on little donuts for the annual no hands donut eating contest. David was saying it had been a long time since he had eaten one of those little donuts. I asked him how long and he laughed and said, well I guess it has been a year. Then we “accidentally” broke a donut and shared it. Good memories. Good people.

]]> By: Linda (DeDe's Mom) * Nana to my boys forever https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1253 Linda (DeDe's Mom) * Nana to my boys forever Mon, 28 Nov 2011 21:44:29 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1253 Here it is a few days after Thanksgiving Day and we are all here probably thinking many thoughts! I spent the day and a few nights in El Dorado Hills with my son Mitch, his wife Cheri and my grandson Grant and my granddaughter Bailey . We all shared this day and gave thanks for our many blessings. We shared great food, played some board games and shared the day. We also all had our moments of remembering and missing the four that will no longer join us for the holidays except through our memories. Though often David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan were gone on an adventure somewhere and not at the table physically, we always looked forward to their return and sharing the pictures and stories they shared. So for me the day was not as important as the memories I have and will always hold on to, knowing there will not be any new ones this year except for our thoughts and pain of our loss. Every year about this time my grandkids and I got together and took a picture for my Christmas cards. My thoughts about this when I initiated it 15 years ago, was that when I was no longer with them, they could look at the pictures and see how much they were all loved by their Nana and how special they were. I never thought that I would be missing any of them. This year that was a sad moment for me, as now instead of five of us there were only three, I just can't make this right and my trust in life was a little trying emotionally. I will be having my Luke and Ryan in my card this year though differently. They will all live on forever in my heart, my thoughts and my love everlasting. Each was so special and that love they shared warms me just thinking of them. I know that those of you that are still reading the blog had your own thoughts and memories of our loved ones, and I hope that you added them into your memories for this Thanksgiving 2011 and will reflect and remember the times shared, the days of sharing food, laughter and joyful times. Christmas is coming oh so quickly and I am not getting with it beyond spiritually. Have Christmas music playing as I write hoping that I will get more inspired, I know I have never been a big retail supporter so that is not so different, usually the grandchildren were not with me, so I don't do alot of decorating and much less baking. It would be very easy to let the holidays slip on by, but I will not do that for as I do every year and have since my first child was born, is pulling up the rememberances and sharing the joy, love and happiness that to me are what we all should be sharing always. Thank you again for letting me share these moments with you, I still find it easier to face each day if I can talk to friends and share. I hope that you were all especially blessed this Thanksgiving where ever you were and what ever you were doing. In thanksgiving to each of you. Linda Here it is a few days after Thanksgiving Day and we are all here probably thinking many thoughts! I spent the day and a few nights in El Dorado Hills with my son Mitch, his wife Cheri and my grandson Grant and my granddaughter Bailey . We all shared this day and gave thanks for our many blessings. We shared great food, played some board games and shared the day. We also all had our moments of remembering and missing the four that will no longer join us for the holidays except through our memories. Though often David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan were gone on an adventure somewhere and not at the table physically, we always looked forward to their return and sharing the pictures and stories they shared. So for me the day was not as important as the memories I have and will always hold on to, knowing there will not be any new ones this year except for our thoughts and pain of our loss. Every year about this time my grandkids and I got together and took a picture for my Christmas cards. My thoughts about this when I initiated it 15 years ago, was that when I was no longer with them, they could look at the pictures and see how much they were all loved by their Nana and how special they were. I never thought that I would be missing any of them. This year that was a sad moment for me, as now instead of five of us there were only three, I just can’t make this right and my trust in life was a little trying emotionally. I will be having my Luke and Ryan in my card this year though differently. They will all live on forever in my heart, my thoughts and my love everlasting. Each was so special and that love they shared warms me just thinking of them. I know that those of you that are still reading the blog had your own thoughts and memories of our loved ones, and I hope that you added them into your memories for this Thanksgiving 2011 and will reflect and remember the times shared, the days of sharing food, laughter and joyful times. Christmas is coming oh so quickly and I am not getting with it beyond spiritually. Have Christmas music playing as I write hoping that I will get more inspired, I know I have never been a big retail supporter so that is not so different, usually the grandchildren were not with me, so I don’t do alot of decorating and much less baking. It would be very easy to let the holidays slip on by, but I will not do that for as I do every year and have since my first child was born, is pulling up the rememberances and sharing the joy, love and happiness that to me are what we all should be sharing always. Thank you again for letting me share these moments with you, I still find it easier to face each day if I can talk to friends and share. I hope that you were all especially blessed this Thanksgiving where ever you were and what ever you were doing. In thanksgiving to each of you. Linda

]]> By: Roberta Joiner https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1249 Roberta Joiner Thu, 24 Nov 2011 21:19:03 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1249 Its Thanksgiving Day, and as we prepare to travel to friends' and family for the next few days, the Houghton family crossed my mind. Knowing how difficult this day must be for their family that is left behind on this earth - thinking of how much fun the kids must have been on holidays - thinking how important it is to enjoy each moment and appreciate those we have with us. So to those of you we know, Ed, Marian and John, our hearts are with you on this day - and to the others, we feel we know you and are thinking of you as you give thanks for what you do have today. Mark and Roberta Joiner Its Thanksgiving Day, and as we prepare to travel to friends’ and family for the next few days, the Houghton family crossed my mind. Knowing how difficult this day must be for their family that is left behind on this earth – thinking of how much fun the kids must have been on holidays – thinking how important it is to enjoy each moment and appreciate those we have with us. So to those of you we know, Ed, Marian and John, our hearts are with you on this day – and to the others, we feel we know you and are thinking of you as you give thanks for what you do have today. Mark and Roberta Joiner

]]> By: Michele Lamelin https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1247 Michele Lamelin Sun, 20 Nov 2011 05:45:33 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1247 Thank you as always for sharing, Linda. Not a day goes by that I don't think of the message they left with us, to live life fully... with authenticity and generosity... and I try to spread that message by example and in words. Love and hugs to you, and best wishes for comfort and peace. Love, Michele Thank you as always for sharing, Linda. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of the message they left with us, to live life fully… with authenticity and generosity… and I try to spread that message by example and in words. Love and hugs to you, and best wishes for comfort and peace. Love, Michele

]]> By: Sarah (Getty) Mozelle https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1246 Sarah (Getty) Mozelle Thu, 17 Nov 2011 18:19:56 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1246 thank you for sharing, linda. i just saw the little movie below and was so inspired! what if all of us who love the houghtons made something like this over the next year, especially over the holidays which will certainly be an intense time for the family? what if we decorated santa cruz on the anniversary of their death and then had a beach gathering the next day, - to celebrate them AND to acknowledge/celebrate that their loved-ones have made it through the first, and often most challenging, year of grief? http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=2227 if you want to connect with me about this, or anything else: sarahmozelle at hotmail dot com thank you for sharing, linda.
i just saw the little movie below and was so inspired!
what if all of us who love the houghtons made something like this over the next year, especially over the holidays which will certainly be an intense time for the family? what if we decorated santa cruz on the anniversary of their death and then had a beach gathering the next day, – to celebrate them AND to acknowledge/celebrate that their loved-ones have made it through the first, and often most challenging, year of grief?
http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=2227

if you want to connect with me about this, or anything else: sarahmozelle at hotmail dot com

]]> By: Gaby Giacchino https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1243 Gaby Giacchino Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:17:10 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1243 Thank you for the beautiful post, Linda, and for sharing your experiences in Mulege with us. I still think of them all so often and miss them so much. Thank you for the beautiful post, Linda, and for sharing your experiences in Mulege with us. I still think of them all so often and miss them so much.

]]> By: Susan Laccabue (Tres Amigas) https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1241 Susan Laccabue (Tres Amigas) Fri, 11 Nov 2011 05:46:44 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1241 Thinking of Dave, DeDe, Luke, and Ryan today. Thank you for sharing your visit to Mulege Linda. Loving thoughts to you too! Sue Thinking of Dave, DeDe, Luke, and Ryan today. Thank you for sharing your visit to Mulege Linda. Loving thoughts to you too!

Sue

]]> By: Linda (DeDe's Mom) * Nana to my boys forever https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1237 Linda (DeDe's Mom) * Nana to my boys forever Sun, 06 Nov 2011 18:49:48 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1237 Here I am at home after being mostly gone for four months! My home is yelling at me from all directions for attention, but before I start acting on those needs, wanted to take a few minutes and share my time at the Houghton home in Mulege! For those that have never been there I can tell you there is no place that will offer more beauty and peaceful atmosphere. I had only planned to stay two weeks and was there almost a month. The gringos are arriving now from all over the north and most of them had known David, DeDe and the boys, some had just heard of them, but the whole community has been grieving this loss. When I visited in Mulege the mexican friends were so welcoming and free with their hugs and often tears. The memorial brochure was given to a market in the center of town so many of the Houghton friends have visited there to look at the pictures and remember. Children that knew Luke and Ryan gave me hugs and one woman gave me a rosary in love and rememberance of our family. On November 2 was the day for celebrating the dead, a friend Ellen and I went to town and shared in the experience with many families and at the same time carried our own special thoughts. There were many alters set up that you could visit and pay tribute and then there was a celebration, and it was in spanish so I missed alot of what was said (most of it), but the feelings and the spirit were well received and special. I will try to post some pictures or have John do so in a short while, but just got home and wanted to share. I also put together an alter at the house on Playa Naranja (their house is located here and it is about 10 miles south of Mulege). I found a few treasures like a black rock that is a perfect heart on my first day on the beach, I felt it was a sign that love was with me! I also went to the fish fry that is held annually after the fishing tournament. (David and the boys usually took part in the tournament when they were there). A young student at the highshcool carves art pieces out of Gypsum, I found one that I know was meant for me, it is a mermaid lying on a rock and it reminded me of how David always said DeDe was his mermaid, and then on the other side is carved in the shape of a sealion or walrus (I think of it as a sealion,) and when I look at it immediately think of David and can hear his his special call! I added to the alter a mask and snorkel, a Turkey beannie baby to remember always our thankfulness for shared times, books, toys, other things I found around the house that were special to them or something that they had touched. I brought some of the pieces home with me but left the alter there with the family things and a candle so anyone that visits will be able to share in that specialness. At the day of the dead I witnessed and believe how life is a never ending, and I believe that our dear David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan are not gone from us that they have left their physical state but have gone together to a new demension or well I still don't have all the answers, but I know their spirits are with us and they are watching over and sharing with us. Their love is with us always in our hearts and minds of memories. We all have different beliefs and alot of what I felt does sparing with many beliefs I grew up with. I left with the message (re-affirmed) that David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan shared with us all and that is to live each day with love in your heart, joy in your day and sharing yourself with those we are blessed to share our days with and Live Life To The Fullest Always. Loving thoughts to all who read this and also those that just share in our loss! Here I am at home after being mostly gone for four months! My home is yelling at me from all directions for attention, but before I start acting on those needs, wanted to take a few minutes and share my time at the Houghton home in Mulege! For those that have never been there I can tell you there is no place that will offer more beauty and peaceful atmosphere. I had only planned to stay two weeks and was there almost a month. The gringos are arriving now from all over the north and most of them had known David, DeDe and the boys, some had just heard of them, but the whole community has been grieving this loss. When I visited in Mulege the mexican friends were so welcoming and free with their hugs and often tears. The memorial brochure was given to a market in the center of town so many of the Houghton friends have visited there to look at the pictures and remember. Children that knew Luke and Ryan gave me hugs and one woman gave me a rosary in love and rememberance of our family. On November 2 was the day for celebrating the dead, a friend Ellen and I went to town and shared in the experience with many families and at the same time carried our own special thoughts. There were many alters set up that you could visit and pay tribute and then there was a celebration, and it was in spanish so I missed alot of what was said (most of it), but the feelings and the spirit were well received and special. I will try to post some pictures or have John do so in a short while, but just got home and wanted to share. I also put together an alter at the house on Playa Naranja (their house is located here and it is about 10 miles south of Mulege). I found a few treasures like a black rock that is a perfect heart on my first day on the beach, I felt it was a sign that love was with me! I also went to the fish fry that is held annually after the fishing tournament. (David and the boys usually took part in the tournament when they were there). A young student at the highshcool carves art pieces out of Gypsum, I found one that I know was meant for me, it is a mermaid lying on a rock and it reminded me of how David always said DeDe was his mermaid, and then on the other side is carved in the shape of a sealion or walrus (I think of it as a sealion,) and when I look at it immediately think of David and can hear his his special call! I added to the alter a mask and snorkel, a Turkey beannie baby to remember always our thankfulness for shared times, books, toys, other things I found around the house that were special to them or something that they had touched. I brought some of the pieces home with me but left the alter there with the family things and a candle so anyone that visits will be able to share in that specialness. At the day of the dead I witnessed and believe how life is a never ending, and I believe that our dear David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan are not gone from us that they have left their physical state but have gone together to a new demension or well I still don’t have all the answers, but I know their spirits are with us and they are watching over and sharing with us. Their love is with us always in our hearts and minds of memories. We all have different beliefs and alot of what I felt does sparing with many beliefs I grew up with. I left with the message (re-affirmed) that David, DeDe, Luke and Ryan shared with us all and that is to live each day with love in your heart, joy in your day and sharing yourself with those we are blessed to share our days with and Live Life To The Fullest Always. Loving thoughts to all who read this and also those that just share in our loss!

]]> By: Sarah (Getty) Mozelle https://www.davidhoughtonfamily.com/2011/10/03/missing-them/comment-page-1/#comment-1235 Sarah (Getty) Mozelle Wed, 02 Nov 2011 04:07:36 +0000 http://johnhoughton.com/?p=968#comment-1235 linda & john, you have been in my thoughts as halloween and day of the dead have approached. i recall reading that the boys had enviable halloween parties. i'm sure their pals really missed them this year. linda, may the celebrations in mulege bring you joy and comfort. i sent some love to david, dede, luke, and ryan on sunday as i knelt before a beautiful mexican folk art altar in honor of day of the dead. they are not forgotten; nor are all of you. sarah linda & john,
you have been in my thoughts as halloween and day of the dead have approached. i recall reading that the boys had enviable halloween parties. i’m sure their pals really missed them this year. linda, may the celebrations in mulege bring you joy and comfort. i sent some love to david, dede, luke, and ryan on sunday as i knelt before a beautiful mexican folk art altar in honor of day of the dead. they are not forgotten; nor are all of you.
sarah

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